Should We Postpone Children While I Finish My Degree?

Desiring God | 5/24/2019 | John Piper
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Young couples face a lot of questions. Can they use birth control? Should they? Can the wife be the breadwinner in this season? Should she? Questions like these are faced by young couples in the transition years of finishing up school and launching into careers. The email is from a young man.

“Hello, Pastor John! I’m a junior in my undergrad work with plans to attend medical school when I graduate. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about five months and are strongly considering marriage. We have the support of our church community, have preserved our physical purity, and are both maturing Christians. With medical school, I will not be able to support a family for at least four years if my girlfriend and I were to get married. My two questions are these: (1) Is it pleasing to God for a young couple in our situation to use birth control? (2) Would it be wrong to get married knowing that my girlfriend feels her main calling is to be a wife and a mom, and she will not be able to do this for four years of my medical school? What advice would you give a young couple in our situation?”

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Well, I would be a hypocrite if I didn’t tell you our story, and then either regret it and ask you to do something different or affirm it and commend it to you for biblical reasons. So here we go.

First, I want to give praise to God that you have a strong church community, and that it matters to you what they think about your relationship. I praise God you have preserved your sexual purity. What a great evidence of God’s grace and power in your life. It makes my heart sing.


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